Truth, Hate, and Morals (Week Four, Blog #1)

11Feb07

Hate:

Verb
1. (transitive) To dislike intensely; to feel strong hostility towards.

Synonyms
* abhor
* despise
* detest
* loathe

Antonyms
* love

Noun

2. A.) hatred
B.) an object of hatred”

(from wikidictionary.org)

The above definition doesn’t do hate justice. What is impressive about hate is that as a verb it is transitive– it is always tied to something (a direct object).

You hear it and probably say it, even when you really do not mean it. You can surf the web for it and against it. You can dish with friends about it. It appears in the tabloids, the newspapers, our courtrooms, our classrooms, the boardrooms, bedrooms and everywhere else in between.

One person’s statement inclusive of it entitles another’s reflection of it. We’ve aggrandized it. We’ve diminished it.

Five year olds use it. Teenagers hurl it. We toss it at strangers, acquaintances, and loved ones. Genocide occurs because of it. We go to war over it; we justify for it.

We fight against it; we teach to stop it.

Hate. Little word, big impact.

How can an emotion have so much power for humanity?

We create words just to encompass groups of hates and haters: sexism, racism, antisemitism, homophobia. Sometimes we hate because we are ignorant; sometimes we hate because we know all too well. But why hate?

What does hate mean to you? How do we justify hate? How do morals or personal truths relate to your idea of hate?

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19 Responses to “Truth, Hate, and Morals (Week Four, Blog #1)”

  1. 1 brianpolashuk

    I personally believe that hate and its antonym love are two of the most over used words in today’s world. It is hard for many of us to comprehend how strong of feelings these two words imply. Although as friends we may joke with each other in saying “hate” it is important in knowing the true meaning of hate. I don’t believe there is any reason to truly hate someone. Disagree with someone, yes. Dislike some, definitely, but to hate someone is unnecessary. Often today, people justify the term hate by claiming a mutual feeling. We believe its reasonable to “hate” someone because they “hate” us. We believe we can “hate” someone because they are wrong and we are right. When saying one person hates another person which justifies that person to hate in return you are assuming that each party is aware of how strong of a word that is. By assuming that it is reasonable to hate someone who is wrong or who has done something wrong is assuming that you know the right thing to do and everything you do is correct. Your personal morals and truths affect your idea of hate directly. My personal views and religious beliefs cause me to look at someone for who he is. Yes, I may not agree with his political or religious views, I do not hate them. I do not look at them as being wrong. I just accept the fact that we are all different and we disagree.

  2. 2 derekroz

    Hate is a strong word, but I find that since the population uses it so often, the word has lost its true meaning. It is also just that to me: a word. If a person, who was a friend of mine today, came up to me tomorrow and said that they sincerely hated me [this has seriously happened to me], I’d like a reason to validate their claim.

    If someone said they “hated” me because we studied for a test together, swapped information for it, and I got a higher grade than the other person in the end, then there is no real force behind the word.

    The word “hate” should almost never be used unless someone does something outrageous, such as burning a person’s house down, or if one person is physically or verbally tormented by another for hours after hours, day after day; then I think there’s room to “hate” another person.

    The human race justifies “hate” through many facets. Maybe an individual had an emotional trauma as a child relating to some other ethnicity, or maybe they were just raised by their parents to be hateful. Maybe some justify their hatred towards other ethnicities or groups because of historical events involving group A and group B.

    I for one believe that I am not a hateful person. I was raised in a somewhat negative atmosphere as a child, but I think I came out relatively polite. I see no reason to take a dislike towards anyone [let alone a group of people] unless they directly antagonize you and do serious [and I mean serious] harm to you. However, if someone was told by their parents at a young age to be negative towards a group, then it isn’t really their own fault. It is their parents’ ignorance.

    A true story here:
    I knew this one person who was friendly with me for a couple of months. We were in one class together, and this person missed one writing assignment, so they asked me to fill them in on what happened. I tell the person word for word what the teacher said [I was reading off of a handout], the individual goes to hand in the assignment, they get a low grade, and blame me for it, saying [guess what?] that they “hated” me.

    When I heard this, I just sort of shrugged and said “Well, that’s fine. Hate me all you want, but it’s not going to change the fact that the teacher was dissatisfied with your work.”

    I say right now though, there are only two people on this earth that I even come close to “hating”, and for good reasons, but how someone can hate another for no logical reason is beyond me.

  3. People say hate is a strong word but I disagree. People say, I hate this, I hate that, but they don’t mean it like people who believe it is a strong word use it. I use the word hate probably about a million times a day. My friends and I joke around and say we hate each other all the time, but when we do it, we all know it really is a way of I guess saying love. I really don’t believe in hatred towards anyone. You may not agree with them, or can even stand being around them, but I don’t think you can hate someone. You can hate the color pink, but because it is not something with feelings. I believe you can’t hate something that has a mind of its own and can change the thing you say you “hate” about them. People are ever-changing.

    -Sam

  4. Hate is a very strong word. According to my grandma, it’s very hard to hate something, although you may “strongly dislike” it. I think the term hate is thrown around too much, and people often miss the true meaning of it. Hate is a passion, it’s a complete loathing of something, or someone.
    I don’t think there is a logical justification for hate. If a person feels they truly hate something, and not just dislike it, then they must have a perfectly good explanation for it. But like I said above, I think since people use the word so often, it becomes second nature and doesn’t have as much passion behind it.
    I’m not sure how much of this is making sense because I’m having trouble thinking of the right words.

  5. I believe that hate can be a strong word depending on how you use it. If you actually hate someone and use the word hate, that is a strong word meaning that you really can’t stand someone. If you are laughing with a friend and joking and say that you hate them, than it can’t be interpreted as strong. I think the word hate can really describe someone, because it can let you tell someone your dislikes and what you like. If you have a conversation with someone, and you are talking about yourself, you will most likely use the word hate to tell them certain things about yourself. A lot of people will argue and say that hate is just another word now, and people over use it way too much. I think if it is used in the right context than it can have a big effect when you are using it.

  6. I too am guilty of using hate in situations where dislike would be the better suited word.

    In high school I had a teacher who insisted that you could not hate someone without first loving them. She felt that hate and love were too passionate emotions, much like chrislynn is suggesting.

    In graduate school we did an exercise called “the shadow side” where we explored the alternate side of the human personality: evil, cruelty, hate, and negativity… you can fill in the rest! What was interesting is that we had to come up with the human traits that we hated, and then come up with a figure who represented those traits. Many latched onto ideas like Satan and Hitler. I focused on the particular traits of a fellow classmate who was not aware of how intensely I disliked her. In the process I realized that it really wasn’t her that I hated, but aspects of her personality that I feared I might share with her. I saw her embody the things I found weak and hideous in myself, and I hated them. Needless to say, it made me think before proclaiming hate.

    The ancient Greeks had multiple words to describe different types of love: agape, filial, eros, and storge; perhaps there should be multiple words for hate?

  7. I agree with Professor Lake that hate is a strong word and dislike is a better word to replace hate. Hate is the beginning of being evil. The evil people must have hatred in their hearts before they become evil. If you hate somebody, you want to hurt them and destroy them. In today’s society, people use “hate” many times (just like what Sam said). When they say it, they do not mean it. But when they say more, they will actually start to hate the person or object. I had a friend before; and I did not like her because of what she did to me. I told almost all of my other friends that I hated her instead of disliking her. Then, I started really to hate her and I wanted to beat her up. One day, I really had a fight with her in school. I slapped her face, she punched me, and I kicked her. It was a small thing in the beginning, but because I kept saying hating her, I started to hate her. So, I learned that I really should be very careful with what I say. I think if somebody offenses you, it is better to forgive than hate the person. I learned that I should not use hate in my words, because I do not want to hurt anybody.

  8. I agree with Sam. I do not think that hate is all that bad of a word. Most of the time, when the word hate is used, the person saying it doesn’t really mean it. I know that I say hate at least 5 times in a day. I hate homework, I hate having to drive to work everyday, etc, but it doesn’t mean that I despise it enough to get away from it. Yes, it can mean a lot when used in the real form, but 90% of the time, it is not. I know that when I get into a fight with my boyfriend (whom I’ve been with for almost 4 years) that we both say things like “I hate you!” but in both of our hearts, we know we love each other. We only say this word because we want to leave an impact, but we definitly should say “I don’t like you right now” Nobody really says that though. We say hate, just because we don’t like something and we shouldn’t.

  9. 9 jacksonru

    I think that hate is a word that has a more common meaning than we like to admit. I feel the word itself is not a volatile as people like to believe, there are other words that are equally or more offensive. Love for instance is a word that is often misused, there are many of us who say things like, “I love this and I love that”, when they could just mean, “I really like this or I really like that”. When love is miused no one really draws attention to it because it is portrayed as a word with a happy meaning. Hate is an expression that has become an avid part of culture. I am not advocating the use of the word I am just saying that maybe we should re-evaluate our use of the entire english language because there are many more words that have been misused.

  10. 10 nabihaahmed

    The meaning for hate has now become extremely exaggerated. We use it for the smallest things, and when we do use it we don’t realize the meaning. Unconciously it is being used. I think the meaning of hate is imporant when it is used directly at someone, not the mere objects we hate, but the people we hate. Which has increased ie, hating a model for being skinny, racism, hating the one who slanders or hurts etc. I think we should be careful in using that word toward groups of people or even an individual, rather than an object. When feelings are involved we must should be cautious of hate.

  11. After reading the Sullivan story where he talks about him being gay, he discusses hate in different scenarios of hate and I feel that is hate taken to the extreme and not hate as in the way it is used everyday. Also, I feel as of right now, I have found a person I truly hate and it is because they did something to me, and took something from me. That is the extreme hate, not the hate where I hate the color pink, this is hate.

  12. 12 brianpolashuk

    I agree with many of these posts, I think hate is a very strong word, but due to the excessive use its true meaning has lost its power. I believe that the word hate has one true meaning, and it does not vary depending on situation. I disagree that the definition changes depending on how you use it. If you say, “I hate pink” or “I hate math,” either way the word is the same thing. This is just an example of wrong word choice. You don’t hate pink or math. You dislike pink and math. There is only one definition of hate.

  13. 13 meganptaszenski

    I agree that hate is a word that is over used in society. As a result it has lost its true meaning. Hate to me is a very strong word that should rarely be used. I feel that there are innumerable words to describe my feelings or opinions but, sometimes i find myself using the word “hate” anyway.

  14. I agree chrislynn that hate is a very strong word. Hate is word that I feel people use without taking into consideration whether they actually hate or strongly dislike. Many people use the word just because of the situation. Like when you tell a sibling that you hate them, you don’t really mean it, but in that point of time you use the word without thinking about it. It is one thing to hate an object, but It is different to hate someone.

  15. 15 nabihaahmed

    Looking back at my post, I still stand for what I said, to be cautious of the word hate when feelings are involved. It does depend on whether or not the person is able to handle the hate coming towards them, but in the end everybody does have a breaking point where they just can’t take it anymore. Hate should be said cautiously it is a word that can have a lot of affect. In Gross Indecency there was nothing but hate for Oscar Wilde from Bosie’s father, and he made it clear to Oscar Wilder by putting him through the three trials. And when he got out his life was ruined he was left on the streets alone, why? because of the hate that was created.

  16. 16 minch6

    When people say the word hate, what do they really mean? hate is a word that can sometimes be used stronger by some people than others. For instance, i use the word “hate” probably everyday. I no i have used it toward certain people but didnt really mean it. I dont think that i could ever “hate” someone. People change therefore if you say you hate someone what you are really saying is that you hate their veiws or actions. One thing a person does does not make up everything that they are about. I dont think you can hate someone, sure you can dislike some of their believes but you can never really HATE someone.

  17. 17 moraa

    I believe that the word hate isn’t such a strong word as everyone makes it seem. I hear it all the time “I hate this” “I hate that”….but in reality noone actually uses it in the right textual sense its just to show that your against it. I really dont even pay attention to when they say the word hate because hate is just another simple word also love is used too much and have no meaning when people say it so many times.

  18. I still agree with what I said before on this question. I think what Professor Lake is correct. But I am just adding more to my previous quote. I think keep talking about hate will lead to deeper hatred. But I also think that thinking about hate in the mind will lead to a greater hatred. Because when we have this in the mind, we will talk about it, and eventually act it out. So we really have to be very careful with thoughts. But how can we manage our thoughts? I think what The Dalai Lama says in his essay about discernment is helpful. I think discipline is really needed for us to manage our thought. If we are mastered on our thinking, then I think no violence will exist.

  19. 19 waggy

    I think hate is a very strong word, i agree with most of what has been said about how important it is to very careful about when the word is used. HOWEVER some feelings are very strong, and if i look at any dictionary definition of the word hate, i can honestly say their is someone i hate. some people are bad people, and the fact that you cant do anything about what has happened in the past with certain people causes hate, society causes hate, the law and its restrictions causes hate. Hate is a bad thing and yes it does cause so many more problems than their were before you started hating, and then them problems cause others to hate others, People hate each other as people love each other, the world is going carry on hating despite any message boards or blogs.


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